Pater Chatter
After reading my recent write-up on my mom, not to mention my past discussion of my Jamaican grandparents, some folks might be wondering if I actually have a father. Well, yes, I do.
My family background is, I think, a fascinating mix of the exotic with the earthy. My mom's background are generations of a mix of Jamaican, Jewish and Portuguese, and my dad's family is at least two generations Canadian, originally poor farm folk from England. For some bizarre reason that I still don't understand, my dad's parents (well, my grandfather) decided to leave Woodbridge, Ontario in the early 1900's to start a farm in Yellowgrass, Saskatchewan. According to the Canada 2001 Census, the population in Yellowgrass was 422. Imagine what it was like during the turn of the century, not to mention the Depression.

My dad was born in 1929, the second youngest of 9 kids; only my dad and one older sister (Ethel) are still with us. When my grandparents first came to settle in Yellowgrass, there was pretty much nothing. I'm not entirely sure of dates, but it's my undertanding that for at least a year or more, they lived in a hole in the ground. My grandmother, Florence Kew, bless her heart, had at least one kid living in a hole in the ground. I never met my father's parents; they were both gone before I was born.

Of course, many others followed. When there finally was a house (if you can call it that), it was built with whatever they could find. That included cow dung to fill in the holes in the walls, of which I am told, there were many. How all those kids survived is a miracle to me. Only one child died in infancy. There were no dentists or doctors readily available, and yet my dad is a healthy 76 and has all his own teeth. Little facts like that fascinate me. I know that this is an overused phrase, but I mean it when I say my dad came from next to nothing. Survivor and self-made man do not begin to describe him. They were poor. Really poor. My father does not share a lot of what it was like in those days, but when he tells me little things like he couldn't go to school until he was six or seven because he had no shoes, I have a small understanding of the difference between my life and his.

My dad was (and still is) a smart guy, who did very well in the maths and sciences. Of course there was no money for university, but my dad was the only one in the family to finish high school.

Once out of highschool he did odd jobs on the farm, worked in the mines in Sudbury, and eventually came to Toronto in the early 1950's with next to nothing in his pocket. He ended up working for a pop machine company, and taking electronic courses in the evening. As luck would have it, IBM was looking for bright young men, and back then you didn't need a degree to work for that company. You just had to write an exam. In comes my dad, in his messy overalls, a shy rube from the prairies, and I'm sure everyone thought who the hell is he, thinking he can get into IBM? Well, he passed the exam with flying colours, and never looked back.
Working for IBM gave my dad the opportunity to travel all over the world, and that included Jamaica, where he met my mom. It's actually a very interesting (and bizarre) story of how he came to Jamaica, and perhaps I'll tell it one day. Suffice to say that I am here today because of an irresponsible bus driver in Jamaica.
My dad may not be the avid reader that my mom is, but he influenced me in many other ways. He always enjoyed my drawing, and would bring home reems of IBM computer printout paper for me to scribble on. He would buy me art and cartoon books that he would see at used book stores, that he thought I might like. But more than anything else, I have learned from my dad the value of hard work, perseverance, and the love and appreciation of the simple things in life. I can still remember as a kid on many occasions, watching my father stare out the window in our dining room, as a horrific thunder storm would be raging. He'd have a big smile on his face, and he looked like he was a million miles away. He'd turn and tell me about the storms on the prairies, and how much he loved (and missed) a good storm. I didn't quite understand back then, but maybe I do now. I love storms, and messy weather, too. I like to look out a window and see the world raging around me. And when I do, I often think of my dad, and of that bittersweet poem by Christina Rossetti:
Who has seen the wind?
Neither I nor you.
But when the leaves hang trembling,
The wind is passing through.
Who has seen the wind?
Neither you nor I.
But when the trees bow down their heads,
The wind is passing by.









